Taking Accountability for Your Actions: Why Does This Seem so Hard

A term that is said by most and yet still the most misunderstood phrase or some may ask themselves are others ignoring what they demand of society. Why is this such a difficult task and truly what does it mean? It seems that more of society is having trouble of doing this simple task and yet condemning their neighbor for abiding in their same law.

The feeling of strength and power is associated with ones actions therefore many times when a person admits to wrong doing or displaying inadequacies they have a sense of defeat. Those that have trouble with admitting their short comings, as we all have them, battle with insecurity. Mixing this with pride completes the concoction all bottled up to be placed on the top shelf never to be opened as some would imagine it to be.

  We all like to feel important and have others have a high opinion of us. Some more than others develop an over-inflated view of themselves. These tendencies act to wrap us in what many call "denial", which creates a false perception of self and the inability to accept the truth about us. It then becomes painful to accept that mistakes are possible and when they do occur the first reaction is to point the finger at someone else. We refuse to think objectively and accept any involvement for our actions.

The seat of success and high self efficacy is great but respect is an attribute that is universal and stands up to the test of time. Respect comes with doing the right thing; an admiral person can show their human side and be wrong occasionally as well all have been at least once, if not you need to keep reading. It is better to admit to your mistakes and the idea of self improvement rather than to deny any involvement as this builds character.

I too have had trouble with this which can stem back to childhood, for all those parents that stuck to your kids like glue and accepted no mistake could have produced an adult that will follow suit. Therefore if this is your pattern learned early on it is natural and when you begin to come forward with your part in any situation it is empowering and at times have a hard time keeping my mouth shut. Contrary to what is taught to believe but standing up and being honest in your many mistakes throughout life shows maturity surely not weakness

The Price You Pay for Not Being Responsible

By failing to live up to a mature self and not taking responsibility for self your world lacks harmony. By this is you begin to find a false sense of self resulting from the lies that you tell begin to reflect as your character as temporarily superior. Such a persona is only apparent on the exterior as insecurity begins to flourish in the inside.

One becomes to be irritable, demanding, hard to get along and critical of others because you begin to impose your false standards of what is expected of them. The only accomplishment to this point is to create a false person with unrealistic views and without change will continue to corrupt ones life.

Once this habit of refusing to accept personal responsibility is maintained, your character can become slowly transformed. You may tend to become someone who is irresponsible, a quitter, reliant on others, disturbed, unhappy, hopeless, angry, irrational, and defiant. These qualities are not success enhancers. They can eat away at your ability to achieve your best.

What are The Causes for Such Actions

Now that we have come this far one may ask how can this happen, of course you know if you already have trouble with accountability but now how to change. So I will discuss some things that can cause a honest person to lack responsibility for their actions. I am sure we have all been in contact with a person or ourselves that have had issues with accountability so lets get to the bottom of it.

1. Feelings of Insecurity. - There are some folks who may have been raised in a very chaotic environment where they were constantly put down, yelled at, or emotionally abused. There are some who grew up in an underprivileged environment and grew up with feelings of inferiority or were raised by parents who carried feelings of inferiority. Someone who didn't receive much attention, positive reinforcement, or recognition growing up, always feeling overlooked. These conditions can cause a lack of confidence in their own abilities along with feelings of low self-esteem.

2. Arrogance.- People develop arrogance for several reasons. It could have been inherited - some folks know very little about humility. Others are so over confident that they become completely self-centered and see themselves as flawless and incapable of making mistakes. There are those who are so insecure that their arrogance is a way of compensating for their insecurities. They feel they must act superior or arrogant to others.

3. Prejudices.- Some people who feel victims of racial discrimination, intolerance, or narrow-mindedness, are always on guard or on edge. They feel unable to get the recognition they deserve and feel that others stand in their way of progress. This triggers feelings of insecurities that results of the inability to accept responsibility for their actions. They refuse to accept responsibility for their actions.

Of course these are only a few reasons for denial of accountability and now is the point to see if you can identify with any and if you feel this may be a problem for you or can this information be passed onto someone else. Now if you can see yourself identified above that does not make you a bad person just about the opposite as you are trying to find out information to change or else you would not be reading this. Now is the time for change or to help someone else change.

What I have identified are only some of the underlying reasons why some of us cannot accept responsibility for our behavior. Does any of this sound familiar to you? If so, this doesn't make you a bad person. You should be congratulated for recognizing these characteristics in you. Now that you are aware the next step is to making a change in your life.

It's Up to You to Now Take Charge!

Remember back when you were able to take responsibility or observed another doing so, it may have been difficult although should have been rewarding. By being able to free yourself from what is holding you back will begin to remind you of happier more confident times. Practice is the key as it will not always go off without a hitch but as long as you recognize and attempt to change one should not ask for more.

• · First realize blaming others for your choices is unfair business.
• · Making mistakes equal human behavior; admitting to your errors will earn respect.
• · Pretending to be some one you are not shows low self-esteem; work on increasing your self esteem and perception.
• · No need to feel sorry for yourself or to feel inferior.
• · Build self-confidence hence defusing the desire to become defensive when you make a mistake.
• · Do away with self-centeredness by showing compassion and empathy to others.
• · Insecurities are created by fear learn how to release fear.
• · ACCEPT YOU.
• · Be objective in your views without bias or prejudices.
• · Stop being the victim.
• · Develop a spiritual self which can bloom self-awareness.

BE SUCCESSFUL